Meg Jay: Seize your twenties


The cover to Meg Jay’s book (Photo credit:

Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter, gave a speech on TedTalk shattering the notion that your adulthood doesn’t truly begin until your thirties:

Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20 (

Jay’s speech was inspiring, and I agree that young adults should seize their twenties instead of using it as an excuse to avoid responsibility and postpone major life decisions.

We should never presume that our lives will fall into place after we hit thirty; we should make the most out of the opportunities we have right now to grow and develop, whether in our relationships or our careers.

Because if we wait until we’re thirty, we’ll have missed out on ten years’ worth of opportunities to start our families or establish our careers — opportunities that might not come so easily when we’re older.

But I disagree that your twenties are the defining decade. I think that every decade can be a defining decade if you keep a positive attitude and take advantage of whatever opportunities are available to grow and develop.

You can start a career well past your thirties. You can find a great spouse well past your thirties. You can even have children well past your thirties. It might get more difficult as you get older, but the possibilities are still there.

The best advice that Dr. Jay’s speech gave was to never hold off on pursuing your goals because the opportunities that are available to you in the present might be more difficult to come by in the future.

About David

I'm an aspiring writer and filmmaker in my twenties. I also run a blog where twenty-somethings share their stories and advice on beginning a career in this economy. Check it out at

Posted on May 23, 2013, in News & views and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. I am going to need this book. As a twenty-something year old, I feel that it is a very exciting period but confusing. We are moving on with our lives, but we are the thin line of adulthood and adolescents. I hope to be productive with this decade and make the most of it. Great post and best of luck 🙂

  2. I completely agree with you that the 20s are not THE defining decade. I enjoyed Dr. Jay’s book in that it used psychology theory and research well, but I was highly frustrated with her insistence that people had to figure it all out by the end of the 20s. She also seems to buy into a very traditional view on career and life, which is great if it works for her, but I don’t know if it works so well in the contemporary world.

  3. I’m using my 20s to work hard and play hard. I think a lot of young people think 20s are only to play hard, but they can start making smart decisions habitual.

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