Are millennials bad at dating?

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Do college students really need a course in dating? This article discusses why such a course might be important for millennials, who are avoiding long-term relationships:

Why College Students Need a Class in Dating (

Erika Christakis, a former co-master at one Harvard’s student residence halls, states that the college students she interacted with were so focused on resume building and career preparation that they didn’t think they had a time for a long-term relationship.

Rachel Greenwald, an author and dating coach, believes that college students are shunning long-term commitments in favor of brief sexual encounters. With the rise of this hookup culture, Greenwald says that romance “has gone the way of cursive handwriting.”

Lori Gottlieb, an author and psychologist, argues that millennials “have been so coddled by their parents and teachers that they are now unable to accept others’ opinions and realities.” She also believes that college students don’t know how to interact face-to-face.

Colleges are now offering dating courses: Duke University has a counseling series called “How to Be in Love.” And a class in Boston College assigns students to go out on dates and has a discussion on what words you should say when you’d like to ask somebody out.

I think it’s unsettling that these classes are being offered. They might offer some help to millennials who are struggling socially, but I don’t think there’s a way you should or shouldn’t date. It depends on the kind of person you are; not everyone fits the same mold.

What the article didn’t mention that I think would’ve been interesting is how the economy plays into students’ dating woes. If the economy weren’t so bad, would students be less worried about career preparation and have more time for long-term relationships?

Do you think that millennials are avoiding long-term relationships? Why (or why not)? And do you believe that college courses in dating would improve their love lives?

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Posted on July 21, 2014, in News & views and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Courtney Lynn

    I had way too many other classes trying to get my degree, no way would I waste time and credits on a dating class! I don’t think it would be helpful anyway, considering how much different a professor’s view of dating and relationships would be from how 20-somethings actually conduct their love lives. Times have changed and evolved. So has the way we build relationships, it’s not a bad thing, just not something that can or should be taught in a class… in my opinion.

  2. Do they avoid long term relationships? Not purposely (always) but long term relationships are almost looked down upon unless marriage is in the picture. Plus people have more options now with long distance – cyber dating. It may take longer to create that bond? Not sure but it’s a thought!

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